Who owns your job search?
March 5th, 2009
Hi Mom, how is my job search going? Thanks for the heads up on the career workshop yesterday. I was too busy to go, but I’m listening to the podcast as I write. Did you enjoy career fair? Have you followed up with any of the employers you thought I might like? Writing this mid term paper has really taken up a lot of my time this week.
The resume you did for me looks great. The folks in the career center had some issues with my being the ‘best at everything’. We may want to tone it down a bit. The employer will realize how special I am at the interview next week. By the way, what time are you picking me up? I want to be sure we get there on time. Should I wear the blue pinstripe or black suit?
If any of this sounds familiar to you, it is time to rethink your strategy.
Most employers view active parental involvement in the job search as a ‘red flag’. At a time when you are trying to establish your professional identity, a recruiter wants to get to know you. If mom and dad are conducting the initial steps of the job search, who is making the first impression? An employer will question your interest and initiative. If the excuse is you are too busy and have no time, the employer will question how you will manage the demands of a full time job. If your parents show up for the interview, the employer may wonder if they will be there on your first day of work and want to provide input to your performance appraisal.
In this economy, it is critical to develop an independent job search strategy. There is more competition for available positions and an employer wants to connect with you, not your representation.
How can you involve your parents? They are your closest advisors, and can help you with your research and networking. Perhaps they can connect you with friends for information interviews. Your parents can also be effective as a sounding board as you consider your options. Draw the line at the point of contact with the employer, but keep them posted on your progress. You own this process.
On the public relations website, culpwrit.com, a student studying abroad asked if it was ok for her parents to contact prospective employers on her behalf. One of the responses: “Would you let your best friend or roommate make the call on your behalf?” Think about it.